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Lovers do not finally meet somewhere.
They are in each other all along.

—Rumi

Couples Therapy

Disconnection

Couples often come into therapy with awareness of having lost a sense of connection to one another. This loss often manifests as not feeling understood by one another, leading increasingly separate lives, and / or regular questioning of whether the relationship can endure. During these times, it is extremely difficult to be in such a relationship and see clearly what is not working and how established patterns may be contributing to the problem.

Were we to love only those without imperfections, this world would be a desert for our love.

—Thomas Jefferson

Problem Patterns

From a non-judgmental perspective, I will help you unravel relationship patterns of interaction and communication that no longer serve you and keep you from having a more fulfilling relationship. In mindful awareness, we can observe more clearly that it is more often the problematic pattern that disconnects us than some flaw in our partner. Once the relationship can start to mobilize against the pattern instead of each other, a far greater capacity for reconnection is possible.

Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and salute each other.

—Rainer Maria Rilke

Reconnection

How important in relationship to feel as if each partner is on the same team, sitting next to each other in emotional solidarity versus opposing one another from opposite sides of the table. As the problematic patterns of disconnection drop away, the possibility of greater intimacy and loving affection grows. From this more intimate and supportive place the opportunity arises to be fully be oneself while being fully connected to one another.